I'm not keen on New Year's Resolutions because they imply we are not good enough as we are.They rarely come from a deep understanding of why we do what we do, which is the best catalyst for positive and sustained change. They imply we need to give something up or make…
As you move on and start making a new start after your divorce, you will also want to avoid repeating history. You want the pain to end but you don't want the situation to return in 'different clothes'. You want to feels secure, and for your life to be more…
I want to look at why people cheat from a perspective you may not have considered before. If you can see what has happened differently then it is so much easier to heal feelings of betrayal. It helps you to let it go and move on after your divorce or…
Feeling rejected by divorce is common, but we don't have to stay there. It's true that a relationship breakup can press that ‘Rejected And Unworthy’ button very hard indeed! And once triggered, the insecurities and all those painful feelings of not being good enough come out in force. The thing…
Losing friends during a divorce is very common. If you are experiencing this you are certainly not the first and you won’t be the last. Many find it a painful shock to realise their friendship group is changing, and perhaps changing quite dramatically. It can be confusing when people you…
To move past those feelings of guilt and shame around divorce, I first had to get past the idea that my life was a failure that I'd brought on myself. There is a notion that a successful life is tied up with having a successful marriage or partnership and a…
When the bottom fell out of my world, I remember very clearly feeling overwhelmed by my divorce and everything that went with it. Those who have not experienced the ending of a marriage or partnership may never fully understand the feelings of desperation by those faced with such a total…
The stress of divorce is up there with the most difficult of life experiences. It’s frequently quoted that the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale indicates that divorce is the second highest life stressor, second only to the death of a spouse. Most likely we all know what stress feels like. It’s uncomfortable…
Fear of loneliness around divorce is often one of the reasons that people stay in an unhappy relationship. Many fear that they're going to be lonely if they part ways. And so they are prepared to have just a little bit of human contact rather than risk being lonely. Loneliness…