To move past those feelings of guilt and shame around divorce, I first had to…
Most of us are familiar with the Law of Attraction. That is to say that we know in theory that it’s possible to manifest what is focused on. Yet how to make the law of attraction work in reality is another matter entirely. In essence, to make the law of attraction work for you means your thinking and feeling has to match what you want. Like attracts like.
Because the need to match the frequency of what is wanted isn’t always fully understood, trying to make the law of attraction work can therefore seem hit and miss. Why? In order for the change to happen, it is critical to be fully aware of what you are really thinking in order to get to the frequency of what you want.
Even when the thinking frequency is in the process of being mastered, it can be hard to hold it consistently. As long ago as 1897 Ralph Trine wrote in his book, In Tune With The Infinite, ‘The law of attraction works universally on every plane of action, and we attract whatever we desire or expect. If we desire one thing and expect another, we become like houses divided against themselves, which are quickly brought to desolation.’
Why doesn’t the law of attraction work for me?
The reason what is wanted doesn’t happen reliably is because the desire is not held powerfully and consistently. Doubt creeps in, and a battle commences: on the one hand the mind is saying, ‘this is what I want’, but then, on the other hand, the questions creep in, ‘Am I good enough to have it? or ‘I’m not sure if it will happen’. The other side to this is the feeling that it’s our fault if we are ill, or if something happens in our lives that we don’t want. The feeling is we must have created it, and therefore we have done something bad. This means we lose our power.
This is where the problem lies—the belief in good and bad. Quantum physics, on which knowingly or unknowingly the law of attraction is based, shows us that everything is frequency, everything is a wavelength, and that these wavelengths interact all the time. In other words, making the law of attraction work means recognising that everything is connected. But here’s the thing, there is no duality in this process, there is no good or bad. It just is.
The brain knows no difference between thought and experience
Mind over matter has shown us, and many scientific papers support this, that what we think about is what we get. Furthermore, neuroplasticity has revealed that the brain doesn’t know the difference between powerfully thinking about something and actually experiencing it. For example, volunteers had an arm put in a cast for a few weeks. Some were given exercises, and others were told to do nothing physically, only to visualise doing the exercises each day. The difference in muscle mass between the two at the end of the experiment was minimal.
We know that the messages from the mind are translated into the body, and there is no judgement as to whether they are true or not, the body simply follows them. This can be shown easily by the stress response. When we’re stressed, the body goes into fight or flight mode. The body doesn’t evaluate the information it receives, it doesn’t assess whether the threat is real or not, it merely follows it, resulting in depleted resources when long term stress is present. So the body doesn’t make a judgement about the messages it receives as a good or bad idea; it just does what it’s told.
Retrain your subconscious to accept what you want
The concepts of good and bad are deeply embedded in the subconscious. This is what gets in the way of creating the reality we want. If there has been ‘failure’ in the past, if we have had negative experiences, this is what the subconscious will remember, and this will keep popping up as doubt and negativity.
For example, you want to improve your self-worth, and so you look in the mirror and say the affirmation over and over, ‘I am beautiful’. But then there is a little voice that says, ‘No you’re not!’ That is the voice from your subconscious, from your stored history. Internally the negative voice has more power than the positive. We can try to be as positive as we like, but if we don’t believe it, we are caught between what we want, ie desire, and what we think we deserve, ie expectation.
We need to change the expectation.
To do this let’s take the self-worth example. Look across your life to find a time when you were confident, or when you felt beautiful or loved. Or maybe when you were excited about the possibilities of life. As soon as you find this example grab it and tell that little voice that there are other options. Because the example has meaning for you, the mind will be forced to accept it as real. Then the trick is to hold onto that for all you are worth! We need to give the mind an example it can believe that things really can be different. This will free it to accept our desire as something that can happen for you. You are giving the mind evidence that things can be different.
You are retraining your subconscious mind, and therefore the little voice, to accept that there are other possibilities.
Then you have opened the door to get the result you want. You are making the law of attraction work for you.
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